You're a man. You've survived Christmas. You just want it to be over so you can get back to work. You're sitting there, flipping through yet another boring Christmas movie. And then she appears. You can feel your wife coming toward you, something is different.
And then she says it: “I want a divorce.”
Shock. Confusion. Did you hear her correctly? You've tried to reason with her. You're open to couples counselling. Maybe she's had a drink or two. Maybe it's the stress of the holidays. Maybe it's you. Is it your fault? Did you say something wrong?
But she tells you she’s filed for divorce, submitted a petition online, and has already seen her solicitor. She wants an amicable separation. So, what do you do now?
First: see your own solicitor. Not hers—your own. You need advice that protects you.
Second: see a counsellor.
I’m a male counsellor based in Reading, Berkshire, and I run Male Minds Counselling, a practice focused on supporting men through separation and divorce. I work with men facing one of life’s biggest transitions, helping them navigate:
Co-parenting challenges
Emotional upheaval
Divorce papers, decrees, and final orders
Financial and pension considerations
Child arrangement orders and finding somewhere to live
I know it may feel like another expense—solicitors, counselling—but this is an investment in yourself. I encourage you to see a solicitor first, and then come to counselling. I’ll support you through the practical and emotional challenges ahead, helping you manage your feelings, gain clarity, and prepare for the next stage of your life.
Male Minds Counselling – based in Reading, Berkshire.
Online and telephone counselling available.
Reach out today.