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Why Teenage Boys & Men Self-Harm and How to Get Help

Self-harm among boys and young men often hides in plain sight. What looks like aggression, “accidents” or risk-taking? It might be a cry for help. My latest Substack post explores how the NHS assesses such cases, the hidden forms self-harm men use, and why so many suffer in silence. Consider this: around 1 in 10 young men (16–24) have self-harmed at some point, and nearly 9% of adult men (16–74) have done so in their lifetime. These figures likely miss a lot, especially when self-harm shows up as punching walls, over-exercising, dangerous drinking, or risky stunts. The truth is men are hurtin, but not always where we expect to look. (Source: cassimkaweesa.substack.com) From a psychotherapeutic viewpoint, self-harm often serves as an emotional release when boys or men aren’t allowed or can’t find words to express pain. It’s not attention-seeking; it’s coping. Real words from a Reddit user: “Yeah I’m sorry… self-harm is normally portrayed as something girls do… I know a lot of men who self-harm struggle with this stereotype and lack of awareness.” They’re not alone and neither are you. If any of this resonates, reach out. Speak to your GP, call Samaritans or Mind, or even drop me at Male Minds Counselling to book an intial free 15 min consultation. You’re not weak for asking for help, even if you think you don’t have the words. Let’s break the silence together. #MensMentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfHarmAwareness #BreakTheStigma #ItsOkayToTalk #EndTheSilence #TeenBoysMatter #YoungMensHealth #BoyTalks #StrongerNotSilent #MaleMentalHealth #YouAreNotAlone #ReachOut #HealingJourney #SpeakUpForMentalHealth #TogetherWeHeal
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What Is Coming Out? Do I Have to Come Out? And Am I Even Gay, Bi, Bi-curious or Queer

Coming out isn’t just saying “I’m gay” or “I’m bi.” It’s choosing visibility in a world that assumes you’re straight.

But here’s the truth:

  • You don’t have to tell everyone.

  • You can take your time.

  • And it’s okay if your identity changes as you learn more about yourself.

For some men, coming out brings freedom. For others, it brings risk. For all, it’s never just a single moment — it’s a journey you’ll walk again and again.

If you’ve ever wondered:
❓ Am I really gay, bi, or queer?
❓ Do I even need to come out?
❓ Will my friends treat me differently?
…then this is for you.

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The Hidden Mental and Emotional Load of Teenage boys and Men Caring for Family Members: Why Men Caring for Family Members Go Unseen

Caring isn’t just ‘women’s work.’ In the UK, 2 in 5 unpaid carers are men — yet stereotypes keep their stories invisible. This blog explores the reality of male carers, the emotional and practical load they carry, and why recognising and supporting them matters. From breaking myths to offering practical advice and emotional insight, it’s a space to see the men who care — and remind them they matter too.
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Why Can’t She Just Get Over It? It’s Been Months – The Real Impact of Cheating on your Mrs – A Clinical Male Therapist’s Experience

Why Infidelity Hurts Her So Deeply — A Therapist’s Insight
At Male Minds Counselling in Reading, we explore the emotional and psychological impact of infidelity on women, offering insight for men who want to understand, rebuild trust, and grow from betrayal. In this blog, Black male therapist Cassim Kaweesa unpacks why cheating cuts so deep — through the lens of culture, childhood, attachment, and trauma — and explains how therapy can support healing for both partners.

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