What happens in the first session?
The first session is about getting to know each other. You don’t need to prepare or have everything figured out. We’ll talk about what’s brought you here and what you’d like to get out of therapy.
What if I don’t like my therapist?
Finding the right therapist is important. If you don’t feel comfortable with me, I won’t take it personally. As young people would say, it’s not that deep. I can even help you find someone who might be a better fit. Therapy should work for you.
How does therapy actually work?
Therapy isn’t about me telling you what to do. It’s about us working together to understand what’s holding you back and how you can move forward. Some sessions will feel productive, others might be frustrating—this is part of the process.
What kind of therapist are you?
I take a no-BS, straight-talking approach while still making space for the deeper stuff. I blend different styles—Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) for practical solutions, psychodynamic therapy to explore the past, and humanistic therapy to focus on who you are today.
Do I need a diagnosis?
No. You don’t need to fit into a label to benefit from therapy. You’re here because something isn’t working in your life, and that’s enough.
Will you give me advice?
I won’t give you quick-fix answers, but I will challenge you, ask the right questions, and help you figure things out. My job isn’t to tell you what to do—it’s to help you understand yourself better.
How do I know therapy is working?
Some men notice a shift quickly, while for others, it’s more gradual. Progress isn’t always about feeling better immediately—it’s about understanding yourself in a way that leads to long-term change. Also some of your success might happen months or years after therapy has ended and something clicks.
Will my therapist judge me?
No. I’ve heard it all. Whatever you bring to therapy, I’m here to listen and help, not to judge.
Will therapy make me feel worse before I feel better?
Possibly. When you start facing things you’ve avoided, it can get uncomfortable. But discomfort is often the first step to real change. I’ll be here to work with you and guide you through it. You will not be alone.
What if I don’t know what to talk about?
That’s normal. Many men come in unsure of where to start. I’ll help you figure it out. Therapy isn’t about performing—it’s about showing up and seeing where the conversation takes us. We will figure it out together. Maybe you don’t know why to talk about, so lets start with your story. Tell me what significant things that have happened since birth, that have led you to looking at this page.
Is my problem ‘bad enough’ for therapy?
There’s no such thing as a problem too small. If something is affecting your life, it’s worth talking about. Therapy isn’t just for crisis—it’s also about preventing things from getting worse. For some clients it is about awareness. For others it is about validation. Everyone has their own reasons
Can I be completely honest?
Yes. Therapy works best when you bring your real thoughts, feelings, and frustrations—no matter how messy they seem. I’m not here to judge, I’m here to work together.
What if I cry, get angry, or shut down?
Then that’s what happens. Some men cry for the first time in years in therapy. Others feel frustrated. Some shut down. Whatever happens, it’s welcome. My moto is all emotions are welcome. Therapy is the one place where you don’t have to perform or pretend.
What if I develop feelings for my therapist?
It happens. Therapy is an intimate space, and sometimes feelings come up. We’ll acknowledge it and make sense of what’s going on, without judgment.
Can I talk about things that might be illegal?
Therapy is confidential, but there are limits. If there’s an immediate risk to yourself or someone else, I might have to step in. Otherwise, we can talk about difficult things in a safe, non-judgmental way.
Can I bring someone with me?
Therapy is usually one-on-one, but if there’s someone you want to involve (e.g., a partner or family member), we can discuss whether that would be helpful.
Get in touch
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how counselling works, or to arrange an initial assessment appointment. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to counselling, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.
You can also call me on +44 78528 98135 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to discuss any queries or questions you may have prior to arranging an initial appointment.
All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and uses secure phone and email services.