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Remittance refers to money that migrants or children of migrants send back to family members in their country of origin. These payments are typically used for essentials such as food, education, medical care, or household survival, and they form a major source of income for many families across Africa, South Asia, Eastern Europe, and the Caribbean. A remittance is more than money. It is a promise. A responsibility. A silent thread connecting someone living in Britain to a family waiting on the other side of the world. Every bank transfer carries more than pounds, it carries guilt, duty, expectation, and love. And for many young men in the UK today, remittances have become the emotional weight they never asked to carry. Through services like Western Union, MoneyGram, WorldRemit, Remitly, and bank transfers. For many young men in Britain from Ugandan, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, Caribbean, Eastern European and other immigrant backgrounds, these transfers aren’t optional, they’re expected. Every month becomes a quiet balancing act of supporting family overseas while trying to build a life here. Behind the numbers are real pressures, real guilt, and real emotional weight.
In 2023, people living in Britain sent £9.3 billion abroad in remittances. What is less visible is who sends that money. Studies show that men—especially men aged 18–35—carry most of the remittance burden, often sending £120–£150 per transfer, usually once or twice a month, even while navigating minimum-wage jobs, university, or early careers. For a young man on minimum wage, that’s the equivalent of nearly one full week of take-home pay. Around 40% of UK-based remitters are aged 20–39. Studies show men are up to 70% more likely to be the primary remittance sender in households. This means young men in Britain disproportionately carry the financial duty of supporting family overseas. Many are early-career, low-income, or still studying — yet still sending money home. 67% of remitters send money monthly. 1 in 5 send money whenever there is a family emergency, creating unpredictable financial strain. 2023–2024 data shows UK living costs (rent, energy, food) have risen over 25%, but remittance expectations in diaspora families have not decreased. This creates a squeeze where young men feel punished from both ends.Get in touch
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